Tuesday, February 27, 2007
We went to Manila, Phils for a biz trip over the CNY hols.
Had an awesome stay in Pan Pacific Manila with the company of positive, polite, superb nice Filipinos.
Met up with Ariel & Ambec Driz, amazing couple!
Squeeze sum time to go to the launcing of Time Defiance in Intercontinental Hotel!
It was Phenomenal!
Thanks Ariel & Ambec for all the help to expand our biz in Manila.
Cya soon in Singapore!
View from Pan Pacific Manila, overlooking Roxas Boulevard
At Star City Amusement Park
Unicorn Scupture at Star City
Going for the launcing of Time Defiance @ Intercontinental Manila
With <> Ali Ghanaddan
With <> Ambec
At Singing Waiter Restaurant, this guy teasing Sir Chin.. rabak seyy, we laugh till our jaws were tired
Maryknoll, Val, Cat and myself
We had a great time and we'll definitely come back!!
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Extract frm a fren's blog :-
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common wuestion. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noteiced that there was a large man sitting next to her, so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know:?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch and liked their idiosyncraies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "fallin" in love. Because it's happening to YOU..
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened to YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all) and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?: And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown.
People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV or abusive substanecs.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not sying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years late.
because THE KEY TO SUCCEEDIN IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING LOVE.
You have to "make" it happen. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love", because it take time, effort and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISOM.
You have to know what to do to make your marriage work. make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (suc as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make you marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you kow and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"..
Not just a feeling..